Nice sales guy tries to sell you that ugly car, you buy it because you don’t want to hurt his feelings.

Waiter gives you lousy service, you give him a great tip anyway because you don’t want to hurt his feelings.

An older person cuts in front of you in line, you say nothing because you don’t want to hurt their feelings. You would be surprised at how well some people respond to honesty.

Depending on your diagnosis, your fear of rejection may be heightened by a lifetime of difficulty socializing caused by your struggles with reading body language and deciphering social cues. Most neurotypicals can rely on their instincts to tell them if their potential partner is romantically interested in them. I say that because every region of your potential partner’s face gives signals that he or she is interested or disinterested in you.

Like many of my workshop participants, you may not be able to rely on your instincts. Write into your Action Plan the following signs to look for in your potential partner: Looking for clues in conversation can be fruitful, but a little trickier.

This day and age, people want honesty more than the game of pursuit.

Even when it comes to hooking up, guys are more appreciative of women who know the set-up, as opposed to those who think that there might be a chance at a relationship.

It’s possible that they feel the same way, but even then you’re not off the hook, because no one wants to be rejected, even if it’s by someone in whom they aren’t interested. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I’m super popular or anything, but I have a busy life and I’m lucky enough to have people in it whom I care about very much.

So how do you tell someone that this just isn’t going to work out? I don’t get to see them as often as I would like, so why would I tell this poor guy that I want to be friends with him?You are so concerned about not hurting the person that you are essentially giving them false hope. However, you are not responsible to make this person feel good. The only thing that you are responsible for is being real and honest about how you truly feel and conveying that message effectively to them.Giving someone who is interested in you false hope is a lot worse than simply being honest with them and telling them that you are not interested in them romantically right up front. If we were to go around everyday worried about hurting someone else’s feelings, we would literally agree to everything.So how do you tell someone that this just isn’t going to work out? I don’t want to use my valuable time to see him when I haven’t seen my besties in a week and a half. Whomever you give the “just wanna be friends” line to is probably going to take you up on it for one and ONLY one reason: because he or she still wants to get in your pants and thinks staying in your life as a friend is a good way to make that happen.You might be tempted to tell your date/partner/stalker, “can we be friends? You’re probably thinking that I’m an asshole at this point, but it’s not true.It isn’t just a people with autism, ADHD, learning disabilities and other neurodiverse diagnoses asking that question; the question is universal. People fear rejection, and one way to avoid rejection is to assume that potential partners are not attracted to you unless they clearly show otherwise.