He doesn't have any clue that I saw his email and I have been acting all sweet with him and asking if he loves me and is he really into our relationship, if he is bored.

You can quit patting yourself on the back, Miss Detective.

But my point is, ignoring the issue will only make it worse. After a period, due to this ignorance, he may get the courage to bring this cheating out of the cyber world into real world. I think it is a GREAT idea to post your photo with the exact same profile as he has done on POF and see how he responds. Eventually one day I took out my photo album where there were many pictures of old boyfriends and casually flipped through it. If he comes off all defensive and accuses you of invading his privacy, you will know what kind if man you have on your hands - one who is not fully appreciative of you. You are the first prize, not the consolation prize. It's bringing me down and making me feel like there is something wrong with me, makes me feel super insecure.

I told him how it really upset me and how disrespectful I found it, especially as it was a dating website.

He responded with saying that although he didn’t see anything wrong in it “it’s nothing”, he could see that it had upset me and so when I asked him to delete it, he went ahead and deleted his account.

I was wondering if you could help me with something that has been playing on my mind recently…

It recently transpired that my boyfriend of 15 months has been looking at girls on a dating website that he used to use before he met me.

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. When I started looking a little bit further I saw that he had been looking up girls that had profiles in our area and he even had a profile up that said he was "single and looking". You don't go about setting profiles at dating sites if you aren't "looking" in some way or another. He said it was just a stupid thing that he did when he was bored (?! First, of all he is very shy and it is hard to believe that he would go out and cheat on me. But the way I think of it, is why even bother putting up a profile if you are not interested. Anyways, I forgave him and told him not to do it again.(fingerscrossing) Yes mom!

Well about a year into our relationship I was using his computer and I accidently (my ass) hit the history button and saw all the websites he had been going to. ) and he would never contact any of those girls and he would NEVER cheat on me. The day before yesterday he was using my computer and he left his email open.

About three weeks ago, we went through a huge fight and even took a week off.. He is on badoo saying he is single and lives on his own and constantly trying to ask out somebody. You are sacrificing your own happiness for someone who clearly does not know what they want in life. I'm very worried about when it's over how I'm going to het ober this horrible experience and the insecurity I feel is crippling.

but we got back together and i thought we were on our way to work things out. why is he on this site if not to look for someone else.. I was also thinking that If he goes on a date I just turn up. At the same time I could just join i and address the issue might as well while I'm there...😳 Leave. I was at some point doing things that scared me because I would never do such thing.

I don't like playing games, and now that I have cooled off I am itching to say something to him.

Ok, so you go wail to him, "Wah, What will you say then?

He said that he only looks at it to use the function where he can look through it and he can click on “yes” or “no” (i.e. He says that he always clicks on “no” even if they’re good looking.