I’m sure most men who someday want a family of their own would agree with me. I feel like just the word ‘kindhearted’ in itself gets the point across. Many a fling was built on physical attraction alone, but how long can it last?When conversations lack depth or intrigue, we often fill our time with physical activity together, but it is impossible to build a real connection or lasting relationship with someone on that alone.This is the list I’ve shared with thousands of youths, college students and women conferences over the last twenty years.

Respect for both oneself and others is a key characteristic of healthy relationships.

In contrast, in unhealthy relationships, one partner tries to exert control and power over the other physically, sexually, and/or emotionally.

According to global information services group Experia, 87% of women and 80% of men said it’s the most important quality they look for. But only 44% of women and 25% of men say a good salary is very important.

75% of women and 55% of men look for someone who’s good with money.

A mature woman has a vision for her future and chases after it with voracity.

A mature woman will be someone you can take on the world with.We realized that we were not really talking and sharing.We were avoiding the most fundamental, meaningful discussions in order to avoid fighting.Not fighting means not talking and this does not work.Couples must learn to disagree with respect for one another as separate individuals with different opinions and life experiences. A person of integrity has a way of being in the world with a deep level of commitment to all the essential qualities necessary to a loving and successful relationship: love, empathy, honesty, humor and fun, loyalty, generosity, flexibility, patience, humility. And hopefully, we would never settle for anything less in a partner. John Gottman talks about the Four Horseman of the Apocalpyse. Does he communicate in an open and effective manner? Are you able to disagree and still come to a resolution?