The guys who have made contact have been people that I probably would not have dated normally, i.e., no steady job or just a little odd.The good news, Nicci, is that all of the answers can be derived from the same exact technique – flipping things over to consider the other person’s point of view.The approach that I teach here at The Modern Man is about being a good guy, but also being sexually attractive to women.

Many good men make all sorts of classic mistakes that can lead to failure with women, dating and relationships.

A good man will meet a woman who could have turned out to be his girlfriend or wife, but he just messed up the process of picking her up.

But while online dating may be a great way to find your soul mate, you’ll be confronted with thousands of candidates.

And, like many other online offerings, the "product" received may not always be what was advertised.

Well, two male co-workers were talking about online dating and mentioned that they’d never contact a girl that was in that class or “curvy”, because any time they’d met one in the past, she’d been much heavier than in her pictures.

I’m wondering if this is why guys will view me a lot, but won’t make contact.

But Vondie Lozano, licensed marriage and family therapist, has some other not-so-obvious flags to add to the list.

Self-description: If the user name or headline is weird, overtly sexual or otherwise inappropriate — Bangyourdaddy, 69Reasons — you can stop there, says Trish Mc Dermott, a founding team member of

When asked what she is looking for a in a guy, most women will say something like, Many guys misinterpret that as being the keys to success with women and assume that the nicer they are to girls, the more that girls will like them. When a woman says she isn’t referring to a nervous, extra polite nice guy who feels like he needs to pay for everything, buy her gifts all the time, do everything that she wants to do, always give in to her demands and try really hard to impress her.

Instead, she is referring to a nice guy who: There’s nothing wrong with being nice to a woman, but it’s not what makes her feel sexually attracted to you.

But she regrets not keeping a pair of pants she wore when she weighed 400 pounds.