the #1 complaint about our book is that we don't say anything about how to put these ideas into action.

Ryan and Jethá explain why they chose to embark on this project: these past two years, I've come to the painful conclusion my audiences were more interested in meeting each other than in watching me give a Power Point presentation about prehistoric sex and monkey balls. There are currently over 150 members, with options for blog posts, forums, groups, events, and media sharing.

Turns out, a lot of people are looking for a sexy, intelligent community without the sleaze and shame typical of many conventional dating or swingers sites. It will be a safe and respectful, Safe for Work community that sponsors regional events and supports sex-positive initiatives.

If you want to unlock certain features you either have to pay or invite other to join.

A friend who uses it tells me: “It’s good if you’re picky…

It’s why I’ve created this handy guide to the 11 best dating websites and apps available right now. • The 20 most useful dating websites This site describes itself as the way to meet ‘the most successful and attractive singles.’ It asks users to fill out their job title and education, and links to Facebook so you can view their social circle.

Before you join, the app has to approve you as a member (a slightly daunting process) or you have to be invited.

A simple profile photo followed by age, job and education information are all users have to go off of when they rate the potential connection on a scale of one to five.

Those who mutually rate each other at a four or higher will get introduced via email.

Down can be used for dating as well, but let’s be honest: This app still lives up to its former name. Trint Me allows shy users to initiate the next step behind the veil of their smartphones.

The true intentions (“trints”), which can range from “let’s talk” to “coffee” to “romance” to “hookup,” aren’t revealed unless there is a successful match.

OKCupid has been the go-to dating site for some non-monogamous folks over the years, but a new poly-specific dating site might change that. It will be completely free, save for some optional advanced features.