For years, my single friends and I consoled one another after breakups or blow-offs by employing reductive reasoning, repeating a misinformed, yet token girl power refrain: "He's probably just intimidated by you -- you're strong, smart and successful -- and that scares him." In the twenty-first century, women have come a long way.

In fact, we're beginning to surpass men in many areas: We have more master's and college degrees, better GPAs and single, childless women have higher earnings than their male counterparts in urban areas.

In reality, I think many men appreciate and admire women who are accomplished, and are not at all intimidated by their strength, intelligence and position in the workplace. Here's an excerpt of our conversation on this topic: Joshua Pompey: This is definitely a big issue in today's culture.

To unpack this issue a bit more, I decided to ask... As you say, women are more successful than ever, receiving higher levels of education, and the disparity between men and women in positions of power shrinks every year.

In ancient times, and by ancient I mean prior to the 1980s, men's idea of a perfect woman was one-dimensional.

Men sought out women who had the biological qualifications such as wide hips and full breasts for bearing children, as well as women who would generally make good "housewives." It is easy to say the needs of successful men haven't changed and dismiss the matter, but that is not true.

She isn't spending her life trying to find a guy because her life is busy enough without one.

But that also doesn't mean she isn't open to dating… The independent woman isn't against finding someone in her life, unlike the “forever alone” girl.

They had the power to grant or deny my romantic desires and, whether they knew it or not, they wielded that power.

I believe it was a combination of a lack of self-confidence on my part and the natural forces inherent in sexual relationships.""The real problem may be considering women who are unmarried to be failures.

Dating is hard enough, but it's even harder as an independent woman.

She has a full life, thanks to her great friends and family, awesome job and fulfilling hobbies.

They remind these people of the existential crisis that cause their current state of being.