With Valentines Day coming upon us, I’ve updated this earlier post to make it fifteen needed questions you need to ask you and your dating relationship.

If you want to truly have a meaningful Valentines Day, try going through these 15 crucial questions that will help you get to “?

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John Croyle is known as the star football player from the University of Alabama who gave up a lucrative NFL career opportunity to open the Big Oak Ranch — a place for abandoned, abused and neglected children.

On a recent visit to both the boys and girls ranches, I had the opportunity to talk with John.

It's a sad fact that some people pretend to be Christians. It's also a sad fact that many Christians today remain spiritual babies even though they've been in church for years.

They can sing the choruses and mimic the preacher, but their private lives are a different story. If you want a strong marriage, don't pursue a person who has no spiritual spark. Some people grow up in single-parent families, others are raised in alcoholic homes, and others experienced abuse.

He is full of wit and wisdom and shared these five questions he has posed to numerous young men through the years who asked for his blessing to marry one of the young women at the ranch. Are you going to take care of my daughter financially? I know how smart she is right now, and you should too.

I want you to work hard, provide for her and your family, and never use money as a weapon. She doesn’t have to live in a Taj Mahal, but she should have a safe and comfortable home, clothing and food. I want her to be smarter after living with you than she is now. Two things will destroy your marriage: self-centeredness and bitterness. Inside my daughter’s heart is a round hole I call “emotional need.” Inside of your heart as a man is a square peg that is somehow going to have to “fit” with her.

Lee Grady Marriage is supposed to be heavenly, but it can end up being hell on Earth if you (1) marry the wrong person or (2) find out after you're married that your spouse was hiding some dark secrets.

Just ask my friend "Carlos," who was married for a year before he learned that his wife owed thousands of dollars in credit-card debt.

You should challenger her mentally, encourage her, build her up, help her to achieve her goals, and assist her in growing closer to God in wisdom and knowledge. Are you willing to knock off the edges of that square peg in order to fulfill her emotional requirements? You may see something and laugh — she may see it and cry.