And if a woman makes a lot of money, men will be intimidated.Conservative and liberal pundits alike mythologized the failure of feminism and the “waste” of these talented women who were searching for soul mates.

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Or, more simply, have we just realized that dating freakishly beautiful people isn’t all it's cracked up to be?

A female friend once told me, “It’s always best to date attractive men, but not attractive that everyone’s constantly trying to jump on their dick, because that’s just stressful.” The sentiment actually made a lot of sense to me.

I’m ashamed to admit that I don’t have a long track record in giving the male sex the benefit of the doubt.

Sure, by the time I turned twenty-one I had run into enough egotistical, handsy, frat boys to give the male typecast credence.

"I think that's why dating your intellectual equal is so important.

When you have stimulating conversation with someone who really makes you think and who can open your eyes to new things and experiences, you never get bored."Or perhaps you simply need someone who can keep up; it's nice to have someone who gets your jokes and is able to discuss deep, serious things when they come up over the course of a relationship.

"I need my man to be less smart than me," says one 27-year-old woman, who jokingly says she thinks the smarter partner controls the relationship.

"If he can outsmart me, then he could squash my ability to sneak things under his nose!

“Lately, in order to want to sleep with someone, I actually have to them as a person.” He said this as if it were a mind-blowing revelation.