Whether this happens in job-related situations, around other people in general or around members of the opposite sex that you fancy, I want to let you know that you can learn how to stop being needy and solve this issue. Over the last several years, I’ve coached dozen of individuals who were needy and I helped them gain the self-confidence they desired.The fact of the matter is that being needy is a process, created in your mind by the way you think about yourself and others.However, others get into the same pattern of being clingy again and again, continuing to push people away with their behavior and potentially good relationship go south for the same reasons over and over.

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Needy people receive unkind words, behavior that say's "your not so important to me,"and less and less affection as their relationship goes on.

People who are not needy would end a relationship if they felt like that. People who have a needy partner can do whatever they want because although needy people complain, they don't leave.

And you can reverse this process through proven psychological techniques, thus replacing neediness with sell-confidence. First and foremost, you have to get in touch with you own strengths.

Do some self-exploration and get to know your own strengths.

Consider a situation where you meet people one after the other and they all seem to be “alright” but none of them are great or exceptional.

And then, you meet someone who is so much more captivating to you on many levels and the kind of person you simply don’t come across very often.He’s simply not interested, and he’s maintaining the minimum level of politeness.Chris*, a freshman at the University of California, Los Angeles, once had what he thought was a casual hook-up with a girl, Anna*, who then got attached.Realizing that he/she is a rare kind, you are being much more careful about what you say and what you do and at the same time you are far more eager to see and talk to that person.If you start dating that person and develop a good relationship, you are likely to experience that debilitating fear of loss, where you are really afraid to be dumped, or you are constantly worried that your relationship somehow won’t work out.Playing the cat-and-mouse dating game can be exhausting.