But military life (and military relationships) seem to move just a little faster and need more planning than others. You will put up with deployment, weird shifts, emergencies, trainings, and a whole bunch of other stuff that will happen at inopportune times and will be the least helpful thing.If you’re teetering on the edge of this particular path, think through the lifestyle before you jump in:(And don’t date him/her if you believe that “everyone cheats” during deployment.) Period. (So do people in the civilian world.) But that doesn’t mean everyone does, that we all agree with it, or that it’s even the “norm.” You will be separated from the person you love at some point during their career in the military. It’s okay to get frustrated, be angry, and cry, but you’ve got to pick yourself up and move on.So if you find yourself filling the role of military girlfriend, you are not alone.

) 3 years as I talk to more and more military significant others who have successful relationships. Some of us genuinely like it; others of us put up with it because it is a condition of being attached to the person we love.

And I want to be clear: those of us who date or marry someone in the military are no better or worse than any other significant other.

Every relationship has its own difficulties; it just happens that when the military’s involved, there’s a special breed of inevitable obstacles that spring up.

And I think, when you start out dating someone, you rarely think about everything that is coming down the pike.

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Rather, it just seems like it’s been a post that’s been writing itself for the past (almost!

Who is Mentally and physically constantly tested and hard to break, someone who has completed 32 weeks of 1 of the hardest military training in the world?

Whos been trained to hold his emotions and carry out orders his been given even if it involed killing someone?

Time and time again, I hear their struggles and it causes me reflect on my years as a military girlfriend.

Even though it was only a few short years ago, it feels like forever.

What you still date / stay with them even though they could not be around for 6months in a war zone and may not come home?