Before telling you about the mistakes expats often make when dating a Dutch man, here’s a story about an incident in Amsterdam.A female friend and sometimes running partner of the shallow man, was having a massage in a place in the Rivierenbuurt.

And it always starts with the same feelings of confusion, hesitation and attraction.

And women, by nature are completely helpless in such circumstances.

She was behind a curtain, having a good massage, when she heard a voice in English asking one of the staff, “what kind of massage do you provide here?

” The staff member responded “pressure point massage.” The English voice asked “what other kinds of massage?

Today, the message could be from work (who consider it fine to email at weekends and late at night), your bank confirming a new payment or a flirty text from a work colleague.

In effect, the old boundaries have fallen away and anybody can come into your house – metaphorically – at any time and you’re going to be none the wiser if your partner is text cheating.

But why do women fall into this trap in the first place?

Dating a married man Indulging in a relationship with married men is confusing, but almost all the experiences that come with it feel the same.

We separated for one week and after discussions and an agreement that he would not contact this woman we decided to get back together.

One month later, I checked his phone and found he had saved the woman’s number under another name and had been phoning her constantly, and texting her at 2am when I went to bed and also throughout the day – even when he went to the shops to get nappies.

Okay, it’s time to have an open and frank discussion about the battle of the sexes and the dating game.