If his discussion of the divorce is a one hundred percent blaming of his soon-to-be ex-wife, take a step back. If, at the core, the problem with his wife was a drug or alcohol problem, she may be responsible for a big part of the breakup, but he may have developed co-dependent tendencies.This means that he needs to be part of a relationship drama instead of part of a relationship.

With the "slow it down warning" emblazoned on the relationship, let's look at the possible pitfalls your man presents.

The first question that must be answered is: Why is he getting a divorce and what is the timeline?

Now things are awkward, I don't know where we stand.

He has still invited me over and comes around, but it just seems different, he is being much more distant, I think it scared him and I want to give him whatever space he needs but at the same time don't want him to disappear completely.

We had several great months together and he said he loved me and was making long term plans with me. And yes, this is going to be a transition time for him and that is probably a good thing for you.

Only a month after all this he is backing away, acting distant and telling me we need to sit down and have a long talk. He is closing up his old life and moving to a new life with you. I think that I am suffering from a bit of depression and it has affected how I am responding to his comments.

I met someone almost a year ago, he had just filed for divorce because his wife of 10 years had been cheating for at least 2 years, he gave her chances but she refused to give up the other relationship. For a few months we hardly spoke, I thought that was it, but we ran into each other one night and after that spent almost every day together, just hanging out and having fun both with and without the kids.

At first we went out a couple times and would see each other now and then at places we both go with our kids.

He was very nervous about anything else and even felt confused after cuddling because it had only been with his wife for all those years and it felt awkward for him at first.