After living in South America for over a year, here is my take on being a gringita and the rules of dating in South America. You ask…It is a common phrase used to describe men of Latin America who act like a, ¨Macho man¨ often exhibiting behaviors such as possessiveness, aggressiveness and an overall attitude that they It is a common topic in conversation here and some women have become so accustomed to it, that they accept it as normal.

I have dated a few men who were machisimo and if I had not recognized the signs in the beginning it could have ended very badly. Exhibiting stalker behaviors like showing up at your house without your approval or spreading nasty rumors when you decide that you need some space.

Gringita: a name often used to describe a woman foreigner/tourist of western or European descent by the people of Latin America. I am asked a thousand times a day, ¨Where are you from? There are perks and there are downfalls living as an ex-patriotic woman in South America.

As a visitor you may be hoping, or even expecting, to find a cute young Argentine to tutor you in this language.

But without a few precursory lessons, you could find yourself confused, trapped for hours in unwanted conversation, or worse, giving the wrong impression. When a woman politely tells a man “no” here in Bs As, it’s not understood as a clear indication of disinterest.

Another big sign is when you have heard through the grapevine that they have been machisimo with other partners as well.

This rule is not just exclusive for men; women can become very jealous and overbearing as well.

I wanted to get an insiders look at this phenomenon, so I went through the steps of making plans with one of my Spanish speaking partners with the intention to disappear on her when it was time to finalize the time, like Argentine girls did to me.

She texted me on a day I had mentioned I might be free, asking if I could meet up later in the evening.

Rather, the word “no” is more a platform for further negotiations.

A local friend explained to me that this is a sort of test.

***Editor's note: I never meant for this to turn into such a rant.

I know that it could seem quite harsh to people who have not been here.

I am always amazed at the way these guys act or don't act for that matter.