Setting ground rules for your own dating life will keep your emotions in check, and may even increase your chances of finding a suitable partner.

If following rules while playing the dating game seems stifling to you, instead consider the rules to be a protective measure.

It is heartbreaking to see them make the same mistakes over and over again.

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"If I can reach you on Facebook, can text you or tweet you - there's no mystery. It's just instant hook-ups and contact and everything's last minute," says Schneider. "Women are texting guys in the middle of the night, back and forth for hours, and they're not getting dates.

They're just becoming friends or friends with benefits." Technology may also be changing the way people interact with one another in person, allowing manners and graciousness to fall by the wayside.

I have identified the following rules to change the approach:1. How fun is it to hang out with someone who only puts themselves down?

If men aren’t interested in you, it probably isn’t because you aren’t a supermodel, it is probably because they can see how you feel about yourself.

They were too emotionally entrenched in the experience and could not see how they were creating some of the dynamics. You will probably see a difference in how people interact with you.2.

I myself was a victim of this until I recognized my part in this process and then I began dating and eventually married a man who treats me the way I deserve. Let go of the self defeating thoughts holding you back.

Until then, it will just be the same guy with a different name.3.

If you can work on your assertiveness and confidence, you will find a relationship with someone who respects you. A man who genuinely wants to spend time getting to know you will put in the effort.6. OK, this isn't a concrete rule, but the point is that you should not accept a date on Wednesday or Thursday for that weekend.

While an office romance might sound like a recipe for disaster (and in some cases against corporate policy), there are ways to make sure the situation doesn't end in heartbreak or employment termination.1. Likewise, avoid starting a relationship with someone who works for you.